Sometimes called “A Fourth Orientation,” asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by a persistent lack of sexual attraction toward any gender. Asexuality is not the same as celibacy, as celibacy is a choice. Asexual people have the same emotional needs as everybody else and are just as capable of forming intimate relationships.
We recently just acquired three new books on asexuality: a nonfiction introduction to the subject, a collection of short stories about asexual relationships, and a young adult novel featuring an asexual protagonist!
Asexuality: A Brief Introduction
This book explores love, sex, and life, from the asexual point of view. This book is for anyone, regardless of orientation. Whether you’re asexual, think you might be, know someone who is, or just want to learn more about what asexuality is (and isn’t), there’s something inside for you. This is one of the first books exclusively dedicated to the subject of asexuality as a sexual orientation. Written by an asexual, it discusses the topic from the inside, debunking common misconceptions and myths about asexual individuals.
The Heart of Aces
The heart of aces is where an anomaly lives, where love’s definition takes a deviation from the common rules.
These eleven stories dive into asexual relationships, where couples embrace differences, defy society’s expectations, and find romantic love. In this collection is a full spectrum of asexuality in all its classifications. From contemporary fiction to fantasy, from heteroromantic to homoromantic, join these unique characters on their journey to finding the person that speaks to their hearts.
Quicksilver by R.J. Anderson
Three months ago, perfect, popular seventeen year-old Tori Beaugrand disappeared into thin air. And then, just as inexplicably, Tori returns home, bloodied and beaten, but alive and whole. Tori’s disappearance is a mystery to the police and her friends, and she claims that she cannot remember anything of her abduction, or the weeks she was gone. More than anything, Tori wants everyone to forget, and to move on with her life as though nothing has happened.
Anderson does a great job of portraying Tori’s asexuality, without making this Tori’s sole defining characteristic. Tori is a young woman who feels love, and rage, and loneliness–she’s not sexually attracted to anyone, but she feels and yearns for emotional connection.
Outside resources available online:
- (A)Sexual (2013), a documentary by Angela TuckerFacing a sex obsessed culture, a mountain of stereotypes and misconceptions, as well as a lack of social or scientific research, asexuals struggle to claim their identity. A FilmBuff Presentation.
- The Asexual Visibility & Education Network (AVEN)
AVEN hosts the world’s largest online asexual community as well as a large archive of resources on asexuality. AVEN strives to create open, honest discussion among sexual and asexual people alike.
- Asexuality Archive
The Asexuality Archive is a collection of all things Ace, striving to provide a comprehensive and uncensored look into what asexuality is, what it means to us and how it shapes our lives. The intention is to provide information that is approachable and informative, whether or not you’re asexual.
- Taking the Cake: An Illustrated Primer on Asexuality
Maisha’s Taking the Cake zine is a beautifully illustrated COLORING BOOK on all-things asexual. Topics include a rundown on the various “flavors” of asexuality, the symbols of asexuality, a look at asexuality in how it pertains to the LGBTQ community, “Tips for Sexuals Dating Asexuals,” a piece on how to be an ally to asexuals, a resource library, and much more!
- Asexuality Resources
This blog aims to provide information showing people how and where to learn about asexuality. Whether it be definitions, websites, blog, videos, articles and more. This blog also helps support asexual vis/ed by creating sharable images with meaningful messages or infographs about asexuality to create a better understanding and visibility of this often invisible and misunderstood orientation.
- Asexuality Awareness Week (October 26-November 1)